Another baby destined for the rubbish pile

Another baby destined for the rubbish pile

by Beverly Bronson on Saturday, September 17, 2011 at 4:00am

Today Dev Kala, one of our staff members, came rushing into the house saying Mummy Mummy, come quickly. You must help!

She took me to a small room where there was a two day old baby girl and mother sleeping on the floor in a tiny room lived in by a drunkard and her two kids.  The mother gave birth in the room and has not seen a doctor. She planned to throw the baby away today and go back to her village.  I have promised help but all she wants to do is throw/give away her baby.  I am checking with my lawyer whether or not we can take her into our home.  The state orphanage has stopped taking in new children.  The baby needs to be seen by a doctor, but the mother refuses to take her to the hospital.   Baby was naked, wrapped in a shawl.  She has an eye infection and not eating.  Mother is trying to feed the baby cold milk with a spoon out of a cup. The ignorance here is appalling.  I bought some meat and milk for the mother, and eye medicine and bottle for the baby and promised to return tomorrow.

How can I take more kids when I am struggling to support the ones I have?  How can I leave her there to be thrown on the rubbish pile on the mother’s way out of town.  Tragic,  when there are so many people wanting to adopt and so many babies thrown away and left to die.

Baby rescue in progress.

We have the baby and had her checked out at the hospital – she weighs 3.1kg. Just now there was an earthquake here. We are all OK.

Baby Ghar SIta Mutu

by Beverly Bronson on Sunday, September 18, 2011 at 9:40pm

 

What a night!  It is 6.30 am and guess who is sleeping like a baby – not me, for sure. I wonder if our new baby slept better in her pile of rags on the floor of that dirty room-she certainly didn’t sleep much last night here in her warm clean blankets and her too large clothes. We went to pick up the baby yesterday morning (still no name decided) and took her straight to the hospital. Can you imagine walking into a hospital with a naked baby wrapped in rags, dried blood all over her and eyes shut tight with pus. Believe it or not the doctor declared her healthy, weighing 3.1 kg. They gave her a bcg shot (TB) and after I asked them to they bathed her eyes and sent us home.

 

We brought the mother to our home too but she hasnt changed her mind and shows no interest in her baby.

Our lawyer was drawing up the papers for her and some witnesses to sign, and Rajina just left to pick up the three witnesses we need.  Then the mother is free to leave.  Her name is Bina, 24 yars old,  and she says she is getting married soon and obviously the new man does not want her baby. She is divorced from a man in the army living abroad and receives a portion of his salary every month – so she was not even as desperate as we thought at first.  She just doesn;t want another baby and to discard a baby here in Nepal is a fairly common practice.  Most mothers who do this though, feel they cannot take care of a baby – as opposed to will not.  When the witnesses arrive and sign the documents the mother will be on her way.

Unfortunately for those of you who have asked, we are not an organization that is allowed to put children up for adoption and the Nepali government doesn’t let parents choose their babies anyway, they are assigned at random.  We do however look for sponsors for our children, and those sponsors receive photographs, updates and drawings/letters from their children.  And of course they are welcome to visit us here.

 

A big thank you to those of you who have offered financial help at this crucial time. I really appreciate your kindness. Will keep you posted and let you know when we have decided on a name for Baby GSM.

Bina left without a backward glance.  The owner of the house where she was staying and another neighbor came to be witnesses.  He was very angry with her.  He told us she gave birth in the outside toilet and then tried to kill the baby.  At that time he  told her that if the baby died he would report her to the police so actually he is responsible for saving the baby’ s life.

My friend Mike suggested the name Ananta – a Hindu word for the snake god with a thousand heads. When he moves his head an earthquake happens.  I like the name but it didn’t go over well here. For one it is a boys name with no female equivalent – I liked Ananta =and also Ananti (my female version of it)– but as it is not a real name meaning anything the consensus was no.

For now Baby GSM will suffice.  She is still sleeping peacefully and I fear she will be one of those babies that sleeps all day, when I cannot, and stays awake all night,  when I cannot.

Are there any new mothers out there with any hints for me?    She took 5 bottles last night, drinking about 30 – 40 ml formula.  After 20 minutes she cried a lot, possibly wind, and then lay there staring at me.

The internet has gone caput as I write this, and now I am going to take a nap while I can, before I go out and buy BABY GSM some clothes.


Published in: on September 19, 2011 at 2:02 pm  Leave a Comment  

News from Nepal, Sept 2011

It’s been a while since I posted a blog so not sure where to start.  So many things happen all the time it is hard to catch up.

I stopped in the UK on my way to Nepal to visit my family and travelled  to Scotland with my partner Mike to his gigs in Lanark and Market Harborough, and  to Perth and Henley on Thames.  Lots of fun.

Had an offer of help from Julie Craddock who works in the International Education Dept. of Cambridge University.  Last week she mailed us some books care of the British Council here, and we look forward to receiving them.  She is also contacting Microsoft on our behalf.  Fingers crossed they will donate some computers for our use.  Badly needed here. I met with  some GSM supporters in England. and also shopped like crazy for merchandise for my antique shop as I have to buy for the Christmas season – then shipped the stuff to New York. Great new things will be on the shelves in November.

I have not felt really well since I arrived in Nepal and it turns out my blood pressure is pretty high.  Have been working on alternate therapies (most of them really foul tasting) to try to lower it and tomorrow will see a cardiologist – something I cannot afford to do in New York!

Spent hours deleting files from my overworked and over full computer  in order to upload more photos and was rewarded with a neck pain that won’t go away.  Now I don’t want to go near it. Apart from that everything is fine here.

It was Teej – the women’s festival – the week I arrived, and we had a small dance party with the women from the training program.  Women fast all day, and then sing and dance in honour of their husbands, whilst praying for their good health.

Happy to say that all the children are fine and as energetic as ever.  Most of them are doing fairly well in school but math seems to be the subject they all fail.

We were lucky to have Monica Witt – a math and science teacher from Friends Academy in New York, volunteer here with her husband Abe,  for three weeks this summer.  Monica worked non- stop with the children at home and also went to school with them each day to observe and help the teachers.  She was not impressed with the teaching methods.   Abe worked with the children on carpentry and computer and all enjoyed their visit – especially Monica’s storytelling talents.

It is still the monsoon  season which is very dramatic but also really hot which doesn’t help my energy level.  Roads (if you can call them that- are muddy and slippery, making walking a chore rather than fun.   I have loads to do apart from spending time with the children – thinking of ways to raise money for next year.  I must plan for our tenth anniversary celebration in December – hope to get a date set at Theatre for the New City soon, and hoping others will organize fund raising parties of their own to support us.

We are also working on  setting up a new program – a wellness centre for women offering complementry therapies from  both local and visiting volunteers.  We will kick this program off with a health camp which we have scheduled in two weeks time.  Desperately needed here.  Almost one million women suffer from prolasped uterus alone! A problem that is very uncomfortable, easily prevented,  rarely discussed and easily treated. Rajina, our manager, has had great success helping Laxmi Sapkota recover from many years of  illness and depression  – am posting a photo of her dancing at teej.

The women in our training program are busy making items which will be for sale in November – we have a few new puppet designs, lovely scarves and pretty necklaces.  We are also making a few Christmas stockings this year.

Today is Indra Chatra – yet another festival and the children are home from school again. This is the day when the Kumari, The Living Goddess is allowed out of her house and carried around the town in a chariot.  Her feet are never supposed to touch the ground.

I met a young Nepali girl on the plane, her name is Jotsna and she is in college in the U.S.  She offered to volunteer and started to help tutor the chidren last week.  She grew up in an orphanage here in Kathmandu. I was very impressed with her determination to get an education abroad.

Feeling more positive about my health – had an ekg/ultrasound/chest x rays and blood tests today.  I go back to the hospital at five to speak to a cardiologist.  Ultra sound showed all organs OK.  Blood pressure today still high. Hope I don’t have to go on meds, but will follow the advice of the doc.   Got all the tests done for about $60, and thanks to GSM’s Dr. Bibek, I was whisked through all of them like a VIP. Also got a 50% discount when they found out I have been working in Nepal for 12 years. This was the first hospital I have been to that was really clean with no blood on the walls or beds!

Celebrated my birthday this week with a fun dance party at our house.  We have started a new program called ANgels with a Heart .  We hope to find Angels who will commit to raising $1000 for GSM next year. We will provide slide show/brochures and items to sell.

Who will be the first Angel? It would help us tremendously.

That’s it for now folks.  Thanks for your interest and PLEASE – help spread the word about Ghar SIta Mutu if you can.

Published in: on September 11, 2011 at 2:41 pm  Leave a Comment